The following is a repost of an article first published on Integral Options on October 7, 2011.
At least he got the debacle part right.
Here is the most ass-backward statement he makes, in a statement that says nothing of any value or substance – and most of us really did not expect him to speak any truth about Gafni, who is his good friend.
many people in the blogosphere have conflated current relationship issues with past issues instead of, as I just suggested, each relationship being explored in its own right and its own time.
This is so wrong it borders on negligence – if it walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, 99.99% of the time it is a duck. But as usual, Wilber mistakes the situation to be about consensual relationships – and he fails to take into account a 30+ year history of similar manipulative and damaging relationships. It’s not about sex or relationships – it’s about power and control. And it’s not only the women who get hurt, it’s also any organization that Gafni works with.
For Wilber, of all people, not to get that says more about Wilber than it does about this situation.
I know that at least two of the women Gafni has had relationships with, including the one who has remained private about the pain she went through in this particular episode, spoke to Wilber either by phone or email. And yet he still fails to say anything of substance.
But then, we have to consider Wilber’s past with Adi Da, Andrew Cohen, Marc Gafni, Genpo Roshi, and Don Beck – he has a history of associating himself with men who act out their power in harmful ways.
I am absolutely no faith that Wilber and his crew will do anything of value around integral ethics. If you want to read about integral ethics, check out Roger Walsh’s talk from the 2010 Integral Theory Conference.
This is Wilber’s “The Emperor is wearing no clothes” moment. Sad, that.
“The ultimate test of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and moments of convenience, but where he stands in moments of challenge and moments of controversy.”
~ Martin Luther King, Jr.